According to the National Institute on Aging, "Genetics In a very few families, people develop Alzheimer’s disease in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. Many of these people have a mutation, or permanent change, in one of three genes that they inherited from a parent. We know that these gene mutations cause Alzheimer’s in these “early-onset” familial cases. Not all early-onset cases are caused by such mutations.
Most people with Alzheimer’s disease have “late-onset” Alzheimer’s, which usually develops after age 60. Many studies have linked a gene called APOE to late-onset Alzheimer’s.
This gene has several forms. One of them, APOE ε4, increases a person’s risk of getting the disease.
About 40 percent of all people who develop late-onset Alzheimer’s carry this gene. However, carrying the APOE ε4 form of the gene does not necessarily mean that a person will develop Alzheimer’s disease, and people carrying no APOE ε4 forms can also develop the disease.
Most experts believe that additional genes may influence the development of late-onset Alzheimer’s in some way.
Scientists around the world are searching for these genes. Researchers have identified variants of the SORL1, CLU, PICALM, and CR1 genes that may play a role in risk of late-onset Alzheimer’s.
For more about this area of research, see the Alzheimer’s Disease Genetics Fact Sheet, available at www.nia.nih.gov/Alzheimers/Publications/geneticsfs.htm.
Lifestyle Factors
A nutritious diet, physical activity, social engagement, and mentally stimulating pursuits can all help people stay healthy.
New research suggests the possibility that these factors also might help to reduce the risk of cognitive decline and Alzheimer’s disease.
Scientists are investigating associations between cognitive decline and vascular and metabolic conditions such as heart disease, stroke, high blood pressure, diabetes, and obesity.
Understanding these relationships and testing them in clinical trials will help us understand whether reducing risk factors for these diseases may help with Alzheimer’s as well."
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Friday, November 12, 2010
Thursday, November 11, 2010
How is Alzheimer's Disease Diagnosed?
How is Alzheimer’s Disease Diagnosed?
According to the National Institute on Aging, "Alzheimer’s disease can be definitively diagnosed only after death by linking clinical course with an examination of brain tissue and pathology in an autopsy.
But doctors now have several methods and tools to help them determine fairly accurately whether a person who is having memory problems has “possible Alzheimer’s disease” (dementia may be due to another cause) or “probable Alzheimer’s disease” (no other cause for dementia can be found). To diagnose Alzheimer’s, doctors:
•ask questions about the person’s overall health, past medical problems, ability to carry out daily activities, and changes in behavior and personality
•conduct tests of memory, problem solving, attention, counting, and language
•carry out medical tests, such as tests of blood, urine, or spinal fluid
•perform brain scans, such as computerized tomography (CT) or magnetic resonance imaging (MRI)
These tests may be repeated to give doctors information about how the person’s memory is changing over time.
Early diagnosis is beneficial for several reasons. Having an early diagnosis and starting treatment in the early stages of the disease can help preserve function for months to years, even though the underlying disease process cannot be changed. Having an early diagnosis also helps families plan for the future, make living arrangements, take care of financial and legal matters, and develop support networks.
In addition, an early diagnosis can provide greater opportunities for people to get involved in clinical trials. In a clinical trial, scientists test drugs or treatments to see which are most effective and for whom they work best. "
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According to the National Institute on Aging, "Alzheimer’s disease can be definitively diagnosed only after death by linking clinical course with an examination of brain tissue and pathology in an autopsy.
But doctors now have several methods and tools to help them determine fairly accurately whether a person who is having memory problems has “possible Alzheimer’s disease” (dementia may be due to another cause) or “probable Alzheimer’s disease” (no other cause for dementia can be found). To diagnose Alzheimer’s, doctors:
•ask questions about the person’s overall health, past medical problems, ability to carry out daily activities, and changes in behavior and personality
•conduct tests of memory, problem solving, attention, counting, and language
•carry out medical tests, such as tests of blood, urine, or spinal fluid
•perform brain scans, such as computerized tomography (CT) or magnetic resonance imaging (MRI)
These tests may be repeated to give doctors information about how the person’s memory is changing over time.
Early diagnosis is beneficial for several reasons. Having an early diagnosis and starting treatment in the early stages of the disease can help preserve function for months to years, even though the underlying disease process cannot be changed. Having an early diagnosis also helps families plan for the future, make living arrangements, take care of financial and legal matters, and develop support networks.
In addition, an early diagnosis can provide greater opportunities for people to get involved in clinical trials. In a clinical trial, scientists test drugs or treatments to see which are most effective and for whom they work best. "
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Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Managing Behavioral Symptoms of Alzheimer's Disease
Managing Behavioral Symptoms
According to the National Institute on Aging, Common behavioral symptoms of Alzheimer’s include sleeplessness, agitation, wandering, anxiety, anger, and depression.
Scientists are learning why these symptoms occur and are studying new treatments—drug and non-drug—to manage them.
Treating behavioral symptoms often makes people with Alzheimer’s more comfortable and makes their care easier for caregivers."
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According to the National Institute on Aging, Common behavioral symptoms of Alzheimer’s include sleeplessness, agitation, wandering, anxiety, anger, and depression.
Scientists are learning why these symptoms occur and are studying new treatments—drug and non-drug—to manage them.
Treating behavioral symptoms often makes people with Alzheimer’s more comfortable and makes their care easier for caregivers."
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Monday, November 8, 2010
Preventing Alzheimer's Disease
Slowing, Delaying, or Preventing Alzheimer’s Disease
According to the National Institute on Aging, "Alzheimer’s disease research has developed to a point where scientists can look beyond treating symptoms to think about addressing the underlying disease process.
In ongoing clinical trials, scientists are looking at many possible interventions, such as cardiovascular and diabetes treatments, antioxidants, immunization therapy, cognitive training, and physical activity.
November is Alzheimer's Awareness Month. Please participate in Memory Walks and other related activities to help increase awareness of Alzheimer's Disease.
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Sandra - Caregiver Guru
According to the National Institute on Aging, "Alzheimer’s disease research has developed to a point where scientists can look beyond treating symptoms to think about addressing the underlying disease process.
In ongoing clinical trials, scientists are looking at many possible interventions, such as cardiovascular and diabetes treatments, antioxidants, immunization therapy, cognitive training, and physical activity.
November is Alzheimer's Awareness Month. Please participate in Memory Walks and other related activities to help increase awareness of Alzheimer's Disease.
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Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru
Sunday, November 7, 2010
Alzheimer's Disease and Family Support
Supporting Families and Caregivers
According to the National Institute on Aging, "Caring for a person with Alzheimer’s disease can have high physical, emotional, and financial costs.
The demands of day-to-day care, changing family roles, and difficult decisions about placement in a care facility can be hard to handle. Researchers are learning a lot about Alzheimer’s caregiving, and studies are helping experts develop new ways to support caregivers.
Becoming well-informed about the disease is one important long-term strategy. Programs that teach families about the various stages of Alzheimer’s and about flexible and practical strategies for dealing with difficult caregiving situations provide vital help to those who care for people with Alzheimer’s.
Developing good coping skills and a strong support network of family and friends also are important ways that caregivers can help themselves handle the stresses of caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s disease. For example, staying physically active provides physical and emotional benefits.
Some Alzheimer’s caregivers have found that participating in a support group is a critical lifeline. These support groups allow caregivers to find respite, express concerns, share experiences, get tips, and receive emotional comfort.
The Alzheimer’s Association, Alzheimer’s Disease Centers, and many other organizations sponsor in-person and online support groups across the country. There are a growing number of groups for people in the early stage of Alzheimer’s and their families.
Support networks can be especially valuable when caregivers face the difficult decision of whether and when to place a loved one in a nursing home or assisted living facility.
For more information about at-home caregiving, see Caring for a Person with Alzheimer’s Disease: Your Easy-to-Use Guide from the National Institute on Aging at www.nia.nih.gov/Alzheimers/Publications/CaringAD."
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Sanadra - Caregiver Guru
According to the National Institute on Aging, "Caring for a person with Alzheimer’s disease can have high physical, emotional, and financial costs.
The demands of day-to-day care, changing family roles, and difficult decisions about placement in a care facility can be hard to handle. Researchers are learning a lot about Alzheimer’s caregiving, and studies are helping experts develop new ways to support caregivers.
Becoming well-informed about the disease is one important long-term strategy. Programs that teach families about the various stages of Alzheimer’s and about flexible and practical strategies for dealing with difficult caregiving situations provide vital help to those who care for people with Alzheimer’s.
Developing good coping skills and a strong support network of family and friends also are important ways that caregivers can help themselves handle the stresses of caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s disease. For example, staying physically active provides physical and emotional benefits.
Some Alzheimer’s caregivers have found that participating in a support group is a critical lifeline. These support groups allow caregivers to find respite, express concerns, share experiences, get tips, and receive emotional comfort.
The Alzheimer’s Association, Alzheimer’s Disease Centers, and many other organizations sponsor in-person and online support groups across the country. There are a growing number of groups for people in the early stage of Alzheimer’s and their families.
Support networks can be especially valuable when caregivers face the difficult decision of whether and when to place a loved one in a nursing home or assisted living facility.
For more information about at-home caregiving, see Caring for a Person with Alzheimer’s Disease: Your Easy-to-Use Guide from the National Institute on Aging at www.nia.nih.gov/Alzheimers/Publications/CaringAD."
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Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Alzheimer's Disease-Mild, Moderate and Severe
November is National Alzheimer's Disease Awareness month. Here's more information from the National Institute on Aging on mild, moderate and severe stages of Alzheimer's Disease.
Mild Alzheimer’s Disease
"As Alzheimer’s disease progresses, memory loss continues and changes in other cognitive abilities appear. Problems can include getting lost, trouble handling money and paying bills, repeating questions, taking longer to complete normal daily tasks, poor judgment, and small mood and personality changes. People often are diagnosed in this stage. "
Moderate Alzheimer’s Disease
"In this stage, damage occurs in areas of the brain that control language, reasoning, sensory processing, and conscious thought. Memory loss and confusion increase, and people begin to have problems recognizing family and friends. They may be unable to learn new things, carry out tasks that involve multiple steps (such as getting dressed), or cope with new situations. They may have hallucinations, delusions, and paranoia, and may behave impulsively. "
Severe Alzheimer’s Disease
"By the final stage, plaques and tangles have spread throughout the brain and brain tissue has shrunk significantly. People with severe Alzheimer’s cannot communicate and are completely dependent on others for their care. Near the end, the person may be in bed most or all of the time as the body shuts down. "
I have written about my personal experiences with my mother and step-father, who were both diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease, in my latest book Baby Boomers--Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving. Get your copy now for only $20 at http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/.
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Sandra - Caregiver Guru
Mild Alzheimer’s Disease
"As Alzheimer’s disease progresses, memory loss continues and changes in other cognitive abilities appear. Problems can include getting lost, trouble handling money and paying bills, repeating questions, taking longer to complete normal daily tasks, poor judgment, and small mood and personality changes. People often are diagnosed in this stage. "
Moderate Alzheimer’s Disease
"In this stage, damage occurs in areas of the brain that control language, reasoning, sensory processing, and conscious thought. Memory loss and confusion increase, and people begin to have problems recognizing family and friends. They may be unable to learn new things, carry out tasks that involve multiple steps (such as getting dressed), or cope with new situations. They may have hallucinations, delusions, and paranoia, and may behave impulsively. "
Severe Alzheimer’s Disease
"By the final stage, plaques and tangles have spread throughout the brain and brain tissue has shrunk significantly. People with severe Alzheimer’s cannot communicate and are completely dependent on others for their care. Near the end, the person may be in bed most or all of the time as the body shuts down. "
I have written about my personal experiences with my mother and step-father, who were both diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease, in my latest book Baby Boomers--Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving. Get your copy now for only $20 at http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/.
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Caregivers Attempt to Balance Their Personal Life and the Demands of Caring for Elderly Parents
Millions of Americans are now finding themselves in a place they have never been before--sandwiched between their careers, the needs of immediate family members, planning their own retirement, and providing care for elderly loved ones.
Baby Boomers - Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving is a fun and sometimes funny look at caring for our elderly loved ones.
It’s filled with humorous do’s and don’ts of caregiving and thoughts you need to think about retiring.
If you’re one of the 78 million in the Silver Tsunami you need these lighthearted yet practical solutions to retiring and caregiving.
Do you need a seat belt for the emotional roller-coaster of caregiving? This book is for you.
If you’ve ever felt like you were drowning in the Alphabet Soup of medical terms and legal jargon--this book is for you.
Whether you’re retiring, retreading, or just free falling--this book is your parachute.
If you ever feel like you’re on a tight rope trying to balance working, planning for retirement, taking care of immediate family members and caring for elderly loved ones all at the same time? This book is for you.
Baby Boomers—Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving is the first and most complete how-to-manual that addresses personal questions related to retirement and caring for elderly loved ones while taking care of one’s immediate family which may include adult children still living at home and perhaps even grandchildren.
In simple, easy-to-understand language I guide readers thru this entire process including medical choices, end-of-life decisions, medical advance directives, possible living arrangements, and how to say good bye before and after the death of loved ones.
I also help readers plan for their own retirement. I've included information on how to avoid unnecessary taxes, probate, and other culprits that could threaten your "nest egg" intended for retirement.
I also explore the importance of a dress rehearsal prior to retiring and offer a strategy for doing this.
Personal/family and professional caregivers of all ages will refer to this invaluable resource over and over again!
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Sandra-Caregiver Guru
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Baby Boomers - Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving is a fun and sometimes funny look at caring for our elderly loved ones.
It’s filled with humorous do’s and don’ts of caregiving and thoughts you need to think about retiring.
If you’re one of the 78 million in the Silver Tsunami you need these lighthearted yet practical solutions to retiring and caregiving.
Do you need a seat belt for the emotional roller-coaster of caregiving? This book is for you.
If you’ve ever felt like you were drowning in the Alphabet Soup of medical terms and legal jargon--this book is for you.
Whether you’re retiring, retreading, or just free falling--this book is your parachute.
If you ever feel like you’re on a tight rope trying to balance working, planning for retirement, taking care of immediate family members and caring for elderly loved ones all at the same time? This book is for you.
Baby Boomers—Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving is the first and most complete how-to-manual that addresses personal questions related to retirement and caring for elderly loved ones while taking care of one’s immediate family which may include adult children still living at home and perhaps even grandchildren.
In simple, easy-to-understand language I guide readers thru this entire process including medical choices, end-of-life decisions, medical advance directives, possible living arrangements, and how to say good bye before and after the death of loved ones.
I also help readers plan for their own retirement. I've included information on how to avoid unnecessary taxes, probate, and other culprits that could threaten your "nest egg" intended for retirement.
I also explore the importance of a dress rehearsal prior to retiring and offer a strategy for doing this.
Personal/family and professional caregivers of all ages will refer to this invaluable resource over and over again!
LIMITED TIME OFFER!! $900 in Bonus Gifts with Purchase of Printed, Audio, or
E-Book. http://www.BabyBoomersSandwich.com/
Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru
P.S. Don't forget your additional $100 Valued FREE gifts at www.AnswersForBoomers.com
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
The Sacred Journey of Caregiving-A Transformational Approach to Life
Are you the "designated caregiver" for your elderly relatives?
Do you often feel overwhelmed, frustrated, angry, and ashamed?
Are you afraid of not making the "right" decisions?
Do you question your judgment, and feel guilty no matter what you do?
Do you feel lonely and think no one understands what you're going through?
Are you torn between spending time with your spouse, your children, and the needs of your parents?
Are you confused about levels of care, medical advance directives, and living arrangements?
If you answered "yes" to even one of these questions then this information is for you.
In Baby Boomers-Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving I share everything I learned while caring for my mother and step-father (who were both in diapers), and from the experiences of hundreds of other caregivers whom I've worked with as a psychologist.
I've also added a thorough research of medical choices, legal jargon, living arrangements, assistance programs, and resources so that you'll have everything you need at your fingertips.
Hope you will join us tomorrow as Viki Kind interviews me at Noon EDT (9:00am PDT) http://tinyurl.com/33hof9j.
Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru
P.S. Don't forget your $100 value Free Gifts: http://www.answersforboomers.com/
Do you often feel overwhelmed, frustrated, angry, and ashamed?
Are you afraid of not making the "right" decisions?
Do you question your judgment, and feel guilty no matter what you do?
Do you feel lonely and think no one understands what you're going through?
Are you torn between spending time with your spouse, your children, and the needs of your parents?
Are you confused about levels of care, medical advance directives, and living arrangements?
If you answered "yes" to even one of these questions then this information is for you.
In Baby Boomers-Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving I share everything I learned while caring for my mother and step-father (who were both in diapers), and from the experiences of hundreds of other caregivers whom I've worked with as a psychologist.
I've also added a thorough research of medical choices, legal jargon, living arrangements, assistance programs, and resources so that you'll have everything you need at your fingertips.
Hope you will join us tomorrow as Viki Kind interviews me at Noon EDT (9:00am PDT) http://tinyurl.com/33hof9j.
Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru
P.S. Don't forget your $100 value Free Gifts: http://www.answersforboomers.com/
Saturday, August 14, 2010
Communicating Encouragement to Caregivers
Everyone needs encouragement, especially caregivers.
Would you like to know how to encourage and motivate with words?
Would you like to know certain phrases to use that leaves others feeling validated and understood?
Would you like to know how to have a meaningful conversation with someone who has Alzheimer's or some other form of dementia?
Would you like to know how to share "bad" news with family and friends? And, how to comfort them with your words?
My special guest on Tuesday, August 17 @ Noon ET (9:00AM PT) will be Lorri Allen, author, speaker, and radio host.
Lorri will discuss how to effectively communicate words of encouragement, and teach listeners steps to effectively communicate.
Lorri is the founder of "Good News!" a company that works with people who want to craft a clear media message and with organizations that want to communicate quickly, in a crisis.
She also coaches newsmakers who want to improve their ability to answer questions or who need confidence in front of reporters.
In addition, Lorri provides 'insurance" against looking silly or stupid on television. Her clients have gone on to appear on PBS, the Home Shopping Network, and Good Morning America, as well as local news programs.
If you want to learn how to communicate encouragement caregivers and others you won't want to miss this episode. Tuesday, August 17 @ Noon ET (9:00AM PT) www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru
P.S. Two gifts are waiting for you at http://www.answersforboomers.com/
Would you like to know how to encourage and motivate with words?
Would you like to know certain phrases to use that leaves others feeling validated and understood?
Would you like to know how to have a meaningful conversation with someone who has Alzheimer's or some other form of dementia?
Would you like to know how to share "bad" news with family and friends? And, how to comfort them with your words?
My special guest on Tuesday, August 17 @ Noon ET (9:00AM PT) will be Lorri Allen, author, speaker, and radio host.
Lorri will discuss how to effectively communicate words of encouragement, and teach listeners steps to effectively communicate.
Lorri is the founder of "Good News!" a company that works with people who want to craft a clear media message and with organizations that want to communicate quickly, in a crisis.
She also coaches newsmakers who want to improve their ability to answer questions or who need confidence in front of reporters.
In addition, Lorri provides 'insurance" against looking silly or stupid on television. Her clients have gone on to appear on PBS, the Home Shopping Network, and Good Morning America, as well as local news programs.
If you want to learn how to communicate encouragement caregivers and others you won't want to miss this episode. Tuesday, August 17 @ Noon ET (9:00AM PT) www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru
P.S. Two gifts are waiting for you at http://www.answersforboomers.com/
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
Attn: Caregivers of Elderly Relatives
Attn: Caregivers of Elderly Relatives
Did you know that according to The Natioal Alliance for Caregiving that there are 65.7 million caregivers in the U.S.?
This is 29% of the U.S. adult population and 31% of all U.S. households!
48.9 million caregivers are taking care of an adult and 3.9 million are taking care of a disabled child.
12.9 million care for both an adult and a disabled child.
41.9 million caregivers are women, while17 million men are taking care of an adult relative—usually their mother.
Are you the "designated caregiver" for your elderly relatives?
Do you often feel overwhelmed, frustrated, angry, and ashamed?
Are you afraid of not making the "right" decisions?
Do you question your judgment, and feel guilty no matter what you do?
Do you feel lonely and think no one understands what you're going through?
Are you torn between spending time with your spouse, your children, and the needs of your
parents?
Are you torn between your career and taking care of your parents?
Are you confused about levels of care, medical advance directives, and living arrangements?
In my latest book Baby Boomers--Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving
I share everything I learned while caring for my mother and step-father (who were both in diapers), and from the experiences of hundreds of other caregivers with whom I worked in my practice as a psychologist.
I also added a thorough research of medical choices, legal jargon, living arrangements, assistance programs, and resources so that you'll have everything you need at your fingertips.
Plus, I have an entire section on how to prepare for retirement!
Smokie Sizemore will interview me regarding caregiving issues via telechat for Smart Womans Club http://smartwomansclub.com/teleclasses.asp. The call in number is 1-218-862-1300 then enter 989912#.
Hope you will join us Tuesday, August 17, 2010 at 8:00PM ET (5:00PM PT).
I will also be giving away TWO gifts:
The Caregiver’s Emotional Quiz – 100 Emotions That May Shock You as a Caregiver and How to Feel Good About All of Them, and
The Elderly “Red Flag” Checklist-117 Warning signs That Your Elderly Loved One May Not be Safet Living alone.
Check out my new website: http://www.answersforboomers.com/
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru
Did you know that according to The Natioal Alliance for Caregiving that there are 65.7 million caregivers in the U.S.?
This is 29% of the U.S. adult population and 31% of all U.S. households!
48.9 million caregivers are taking care of an adult and 3.9 million are taking care of a disabled child.
12.9 million care for both an adult and a disabled child.
41.9 million caregivers are women, while17 million men are taking care of an adult relative—usually their mother.
Are you the "designated caregiver" for your elderly relatives?
Do you often feel overwhelmed, frustrated, angry, and ashamed?
Are you afraid of not making the "right" decisions?
Do you question your judgment, and feel guilty no matter what you do?
Do you feel lonely and think no one understands what you're going through?
Are you torn between spending time with your spouse, your children, and the needs of your
parents?
Are you torn between your career and taking care of your parents?
Are you confused about levels of care, medical advance directives, and living arrangements?
In my latest book Baby Boomers--Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving
I share everything I learned while caring for my mother and step-father (who were both in diapers), and from the experiences of hundreds of other caregivers with whom I worked in my practice as a psychologist.
I also added a thorough research of medical choices, legal jargon, living arrangements, assistance programs, and resources so that you'll have everything you need at your fingertips.
Plus, I have an entire section on how to prepare for retirement!
Smokie Sizemore will interview me regarding caregiving issues via telechat for Smart Womans Club http://smartwomansclub.com/teleclasses.asp. The call in number is 1-218-862-1300 then enter 989912#.
Hope you will join us Tuesday, August 17, 2010 at 8:00PM ET (5:00PM PT).
I will also be giving away TWO gifts:
The Caregiver’s Emotional Quiz – 100 Emotions That May Shock You as a Caregiver and How to Feel Good About All of Them, and
The Elderly “Red Flag” Checklist-117 Warning signs That Your Elderly Loved One May Not be Safet Living alone.
Check out my new website: http://www.answersforboomers.com/
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru
Monday, August 2, 2010
Retirement Life Matters
Retirement is no longer the end of the line, but a new beginning, according to Cathy Severson. My special guest 8/3/10 @ Noon ET (9:00 AM PT) www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon
Here's some interesting information from Cathy that she will discuss.
Retirement and aging have been thought of as a time of decline. Psychologists now believe that aging provides opportunity for personal growth and development
With the extended life span has come the concept of the Third Age. The primary opportunity of Third Age is to live from the inside out.
While 75% of baby boomer’s report wanting to work passed retirement age, it’s not business as usual. They are looking for work that is fun, personally fulfilling and makes a difference.
Q. How is the concept of retirement changing?
A. Many people don’t know retirement came into existence in 1933 with the passage of the Social Security Act. The country was deep into the depression with an unemployment rate of 25%. President Roosevelt was concerned about rioting in the streets. Social Security was used to entice older men to retire, so younger workers would be employed. The reason lawmakers elected age 65 for retirement that was the average lifespan of the time.
Another thing has changed since then. Starting with Freud, most psychologists believed that human development ended by the early twenties. Not much growth occurred after adolescence. Aging was perceived as a time of decline.
Developmental psychologists have changed their ideas in the last generation. No longer is older adulthood thought to be a time of decline but actually one of personal development that is now referred to as the Third Age and Second Growth.
Q. Can you explain more about Third Age?
We are living in a most amazing period of time. Never before in the history of the human race have a significant percentage of people lived beyond their biological mandate.
For those of us who were around in the sixties, whether you participated in the drugs and rock and roll or not, you may remember that we were going to live life differently.
Then something happened. The one thing we swore wasn’t going to happen, we became our parents. We went out and got jobs, had babies, built homes in the suburbs. No matter how much we wanted to deny it, that biological urge was too much to ignore.
First age is learning or being a student.
Second age is being a worker and member of society. It is the age of achievement and acquisition.
Third Age is about self-actualizing, or living authentically. Third Age is about releasing the roles and externals that defined second age.
Adolescence was developed at the end of the nineteenth century. Before then you went from being a child to an adult. Third Age is actually being developed as the life span increases.
Q. What are the five keys to a satisfying retirement?
A. Well-being is about living in the now, accepting yourself and others, taking care of yourself. As we stated before, shifting from an external to an internal orientation.
I ask people to make a list of all the externals we use to define ourselves; our bodies, minds, roles, jobs, stuff acquired. These things aren't bad, except when our identity is tied to them.
Decline has always meant the loss of roles. But, it is through this loss of roles that we become free to truly be ourselves.
The activities we engage in, whether work, hobbies, play, volunteering are opportunities for us to express our true selves.
Staying connected. This is probably the number one reason people go back to work. They miss feeling connected and supported to others.
Play – Baby Boomers have forgotten how to play. They know how to indulge, but they’ve forgotten the childlike spontaneity of discovery, and enjoyment of being in the moment.
Challenges – Human beings need to be stimulated. We need to take risks and get outside our comfort zone. All the information that is coming out about the brain talks about how important it is to keep the brain active.
Meaning - Finally, we need to know our lives matter. This means being involved in something bigger than ourselves.
Q. How do these keys help people create a fulfilling retirement?
Instead of retiring away from life, baby boomers are looking for new ways to stay active and involved.
While 77% of baby boomers report they are going to continue to work into retirement, the focus for many is shifting from earning a living to work that is more about their purpose.
As baby boomers are entering their fifties and sixties, their children are going off on their own and the old itch to make a difference is returning.
For example, I had a client recently who retired at 51 from the entertainment industry. He would still like to earn some money, but is more concerned about finding work that is meaningful and about making a contribution.
We’re told by the media that baby boomers want to have an extended vacation for thirty years, but if you talk to baby boomers, most do not want a retirement like their parents.
The problem arises because most people don’t know how to make that transition. We’ve been so programmed to want it all, it’s hard to give that up.
Q. So, what do baby boomers want?
A. They want to know their lives have meaning. We’re told by the media that baby boomers want non-stop play. Don’t get me wrong. They want to have it all, but I see more and more people realize that 20 or 30 years of golf may not be satisfying.
The problem is they don’t know what will be satisfying. Many people are burned out from the stress of every day life and even though they like their work, they’re ready for a change.
Q. How do people successfully make the transition to retirement?
A. It’s really a two fold operation. The first part is a willingness to be comfortable with not knowing. We’ve gotten the idea that having a purpose is about something big that is "out there", but it’s just a little voice that’s inside saying we’re living authentically. People need to be willing to spend time listening to that voice.
The other part is a willingness to explore options and take risks. I had a wise minister once who said, “You can’t find Mr. Right sitting in your room with the doors locked and window shades drawn.’’ The same goes for purpose.
I’ve seen people make a list of activities and then go through each one and say, “No, that’s not my purpose, or that’s not my passion.” People need to get out, talk to others, take classes, volunteer, experiment and experience. Unfortunately, that’s all easier said than done. If you worked the same job for 20-30 years, lived in the same house, had the same friends, trying new things can be very daunting.
Q. What should they do?
A. Just as with any other major transition or change, a major key is having support. That was one of the reasons we decided to build our new website was to create a place where people could come together to share experiences and learn from each other.
Another thing is to just get in the habit of taking risks. Some think that humans prefer to do nothing when actually it’s quite the opposite. The human brain feels most alive when there is a challenge or a risk involved. The brain is like a muscle. If it hasn’t been used for a while, it may be sore at first and hard to use, but with time, it’ll get in shape.
Baby boomers want more options as they get older. They want meaningful experiences. For example, when they volunteer, they are not content to stuff envelops, but want to know that what they do is making a difference.
There seems to be a sense from many baby boomers that there is still a legacy that was started in the sixties that needs to be fulfilled. It seems many of us got sidetracked with making money and raising our families. People are looking for new ways in which they can impact the world.
Q. Give examples of how retirees are creating fulfilling lives.
Some are choosing work mostly for fun. JJ was a production supervisor at a plant in the valley and now works 3-4 days a week as an extra for television and movies.
Then there is Bill, a retired fireman who loves people and driving. When they need to move a fire truck from the east coast to the west, he drives it across the country. He also started a business driving people to the airport. He uses their car, drives them to the front gate and then when they return, he picks them up in their car and drives them home. His business has grown entirely by word of mouth.
Most often, work starts off small and then grows. I met a therapist who went to Africa on vacation, came home and started a foundation to help people in Tanzania. Now, when she isn’t working at her job, every minute is devoted to her foundation--raising money to help people in Africa.
Q. Do you have other examples?
Roseanne Salvo runs four discussion groups in California every single week, fifty-two weeks out of the year. I think she takes the major holidays off, but other than that, she is there.
They discuss books, culture, the arts and current events. When I asked her if she wanted to travel, she said no, she’d done that in her former life running an art gallery. She believes she needs to provide the consistency of the "being there" every week. Shehad one man who came every week for months and wouldn’t say a word. Then one day, he showed up and poured his heart out. She said he had no other place to share his feelings.
Roseanne is an example of someone who had an interest, in this case the arts and her discussion groups evolved out of it.
The problem arises when someone wants to do something differently, but doesn’t know what it is they want to do or how to get started.
Be sure to join us Tuesday, August 3rd. at Noon ET (9:00 AM PT) for more on how Retirement Life Matters. www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru
Here's some interesting information from Cathy that she will discuss.
Retirement and aging have been thought of as a time of decline. Psychologists now believe that aging provides opportunity for personal growth and development
With the extended life span has come the concept of the Third Age. The primary opportunity of Third Age is to live from the inside out.
While 75% of baby boomer’s report wanting to work passed retirement age, it’s not business as usual. They are looking for work that is fun, personally fulfilling and makes a difference.
Q. How is the concept of retirement changing?
A. Many people don’t know retirement came into existence in 1933 with the passage of the Social Security Act. The country was deep into the depression with an unemployment rate of 25%. President Roosevelt was concerned about rioting in the streets. Social Security was used to entice older men to retire, so younger workers would be employed. The reason lawmakers elected age 65 for retirement that was the average lifespan of the time.
Another thing has changed since then. Starting with Freud, most psychologists believed that human development ended by the early twenties. Not much growth occurred after adolescence. Aging was perceived as a time of decline.
Developmental psychologists have changed their ideas in the last generation. No longer is older adulthood thought to be a time of decline but actually one of personal development that is now referred to as the Third Age and Second Growth.
Q. Can you explain more about Third Age?
We are living in a most amazing period of time. Never before in the history of the human race have a significant percentage of people lived beyond their biological mandate.
For those of us who were around in the sixties, whether you participated in the drugs and rock and roll or not, you may remember that we were going to live life differently.
Then something happened. The one thing we swore wasn’t going to happen, we became our parents. We went out and got jobs, had babies, built homes in the suburbs. No matter how much we wanted to deny it, that biological urge was too much to ignore.
First age is learning or being a student.
Second age is being a worker and member of society. It is the age of achievement and acquisition.
Third Age is about self-actualizing, or living authentically. Third Age is about releasing the roles and externals that defined second age.
Adolescence was developed at the end of the nineteenth century. Before then you went from being a child to an adult. Third Age is actually being developed as the life span increases.
Q. What are the five keys to a satisfying retirement?
A. Well-being is about living in the now, accepting yourself and others, taking care of yourself. As we stated before, shifting from an external to an internal orientation.
I ask people to make a list of all the externals we use to define ourselves; our bodies, minds, roles, jobs, stuff acquired. These things aren't bad, except when our identity is tied to them.
Decline has always meant the loss of roles. But, it is through this loss of roles that we become free to truly be ourselves.
The activities we engage in, whether work, hobbies, play, volunteering are opportunities for us to express our true selves.
Staying connected. This is probably the number one reason people go back to work. They miss feeling connected and supported to others.
Play – Baby Boomers have forgotten how to play. They know how to indulge, but they’ve forgotten the childlike spontaneity of discovery, and enjoyment of being in the moment.
Challenges – Human beings need to be stimulated. We need to take risks and get outside our comfort zone. All the information that is coming out about the brain talks about how important it is to keep the brain active.
Meaning - Finally, we need to know our lives matter. This means being involved in something bigger than ourselves.
Q. How do these keys help people create a fulfilling retirement?
Instead of retiring away from life, baby boomers are looking for new ways to stay active and involved.
While 77% of baby boomers report they are going to continue to work into retirement, the focus for many is shifting from earning a living to work that is more about their purpose.
As baby boomers are entering their fifties and sixties, their children are going off on their own and the old itch to make a difference is returning.
For example, I had a client recently who retired at 51 from the entertainment industry. He would still like to earn some money, but is more concerned about finding work that is meaningful and about making a contribution.
We’re told by the media that baby boomers want to have an extended vacation for thirty years, but if you talk to baby boomers, most do not want a retirement like their parents.
The problem arises because most people don’t know how to make that transition. We’ve been so programmed to want it all, it’s hard to give that up.
Q. So, what do baby boomers want?
A. They want to know their lives have meaning. We’re told by the media that baby boomers want non-stop play. Don’t get me wrong. They want to have it all, but I see more and more people realize that 20 or 30 years of golf may not be satisfying.
The problem is they don’t know what will be satisfying. Many people are burned out from the stress of every day life and even though they like their work, they’re ready for a change.
Q. How do people successfully make the transition to retirement?
A. It’s really a two fold operation. The first part is a willingness to be comfortable with not knowing. We’ve gotten the idea that having a purpose is about something big that is "out there", but it’s just a little voice that’s inside saying we’re living authentically. People need to be willing to spend time listening to that voice.
The other part is a willingness to explore options and take risks. I had a wise minister once who said, “You can’t find Mr. Right sitting in your room with the doors locked and window shades drawn.’’ The same goes for purpose.
I’ve seen people make a list of activities and then go through each one and say, “No, that’s not my purpose, or that’s not my passion.” People need to get out, talk to others, take classes, volunteer, experiment and experience. Unfortunately, that’s all easier said than done. If you worked the same job for 20-30 years, lived in the same house, had the same friends, trying new things can be very daunting.
Q. What should they do?
A. Just as with any other major transition or change, a major key is having support. That was one of the reasons we decided to build our new website was to create a place where people could come together to share experiences and learn from each other.
Another thing is to just get in the habit of taking risks. Some think that humans prefer to do nothing when actually it’s quite the opposite. The human brain feels most alive when there is a challenge or a risk involved. The brain is like a muscle. If it hasn’t been used for a while, it may be sore at first and hard to use, but with time, it’ll get in shape.
Baby boomers want more options as they get older. They want meaningful experiences. For example, when they volunteer, they are not content to stuff envelops, but want to know that what they do is making a difference.
There seems to be a sense from many baby boomers that there is still a legacy that was started in the sixties that needs to be fulfilled. It seems many of us got sidetracked with making money and raising our families. People are looking for new ways in which they can impact the world.
Q. Give examples of how retirees are creating fulfilling lives.
Some are choosing work mostly for fun. JJ was a production supervisor at a plant in the valley and now works 3-4 days a week as an extra for television and movies.
Then there is Bill, a retired fireman who loves people and driving. When they need to move a fire truck from the east coast to the west, he drives it across the country. He also started a business driving people to the airport. He uses their car, drives them to the front gate and then when they return, he picks them up in their car and drives them home. His business has grown entirely by word of mouth.
Most often, work starts off small and then grows. I met a therapist who went to Africa on vacation, came home and started a foundation to help people in Tanzania. Now, when she isn’t working at her job, every minute is devoted to her foundation--raising money to help people in Africa.
Q. Do you have other examples?
Roseanne Salvo runs four discussion groups in California every single week, fifty-two weeks out of the year. I think she takes the major holidays off, but other than that, she is there.
They discuss books, culture, the arts and current events. When I asked her if she wanted to travel, she said no, she’d done that in her former life running an art gallery. She believes she needs to provide the consistency of the "being there" every week. Shehad one man who came every week for months and wouldn’t say a word. Then one day, he showed up and poured his heart out. She said he had no other place to share his feelings.
Roseanne is an example of someone who had an interest, in this case the arts and her discussion groups evolved out of it.
The problem arises when someone wants to do something differently, but doesn’t know what it is they want to do or how to get started.
Be sure to join us Tuesday, August 3rd. at Noon ET (9:00 AM PT) for more on how Retirement Life Matters. www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru
5 Keys to a Satisfying Retirement
Why do people retire and what do they do after retirement?
Ever wonder where the idea of "retiring" came from in the first place?
If the "First" age is that period in life when we're learning as a student. And, the "second" age is the period when we're achieving and acquiring.
What's the "Third Age?" and "Second Growth?"
My special guest, Cathy Severson, MS, President, Retirement Life Matters will discuss these concepts as well as reveal the five keys to a satisfying retirement.
She will also discuss how you can make the transition into retirement.
These keys can help you have a fulfilling retirement life.
If you are retired or ever plan to retire you won't want to miss this episode.
This will be a great opportunity to get your questions about retirement answered from the expert. Please join us Tuesday, August 3rd. Noon ET (9:00AM PT) www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon
Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru
Ever wonder where the idea of "retiring" came from in the first place?
If the "First" age is that period in life when we're learning as a student. And, the "second" age is the period when we're achieving and acquiring.
What's the "Third Age?" and "Second Growth?"
My special guest, Cathy Severson, MS, President, Retirement Life Matters will discuss these concepts as well as reveal the five keys to a satisfying retirement.
She will also discuss how you can make the transition into retirement.
These keys can help you have a fulfilling retirement life.
If you are retired or ever plan to retire you won't want to miss this episode.
This will be a great opportunity to get your questions about retirement answered from the expert. Please join us Tuesday, August 3rd. Noon ET (9:00AM PT) www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon
Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru
Monday, July 19, 2010
Where Will Your Folks Live When They Can No Longer Live Alone?
Do you ever worry about where your parents will live when they are no longer safe living alone?
Ever feel overwhelmed with all the choices of living arrangements?
Are you concerned about how to talk to your folks about the need to make such a life-changing decision?
Do you worry about whether you will know when the time has arrived that your folks can no longer live alone?
Ever wonder what the differences are between assisted living and skilled nursing care?
My special guest, Debbie Griffiths, RNC, and author of Little Lady, Big Dream will discuss the answers to these and many other questions associated with caring for an ill or aging loved one.
Debbie has spent most of her adult life caring for elderly residents.
She built her own assisted living facility and operaated it for almost a decade.
Have your questions ready and take advantage of this great resource.
www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon 11:00AM EDT
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
Ever feel overwhelmed with all the choices of living arrangements?
Are you concerned about how to talk to your folks about the need to make such a life-changing decision?
Do you worry about whether you will know when the time has arrived that your folks can no longer live alone?
Ever wonder what the differences are between assisted living and skilled nursing care?
My special guest, Debbie Griffiths, RNC, and author of Little Lady, Big Dream will discuss the answers to these and many other questions associated with caring for an ill or aging loved one.
Debbie has spent most of her adult life caring for elderly residents.
She built her own assisted living facility and operaated it for almost a decade.
Have your questions ready and take advantage of this great resource.
www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon 11:00AM EDT
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Fear of Death Among the Elderly--Part Two
I believe that the difference between Heaven and Hell is not so much the climate as the company. Living in a world populated by people like themselves would, for many be Heaven. And for others, it would indeed be Hell.
(Richard Paul Evans)
It is common for elderly folks to ask others what they believe about death. Often these types of questions are veiled attempts to clarify their own beliefs.
A good way to help elderly loved ones gain clarification is to turn the question back to them or ask these or other self-discovery questions.
For example, you might ask these or similar questions: "What have you been taught about an afterlife?" "What do you hope happens after death?" "What have you envisioned it might be like after death?" "Is there some thought about death that brings you comfort?" "Where do you turn for strength?"
Views about death itself and spiritual life after death depend largely on cultural and/or religious teachings, as well as individual frameworks.
Sincerely,
Sandra -- Caregiver uru for the Caregiver Genertion
Monday, June 14, 2010
Care-grieving and Kind Ethics
Are you experiencing care-grieving?
Please join me Tuesday, June 15, 2010 @ Noon EST: www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon. Viki Kind will be my guest. Viki is a clinical bioethicist, medical educator, hospice volunteer and the author of: The Caregiver’s Path to Compassionate Decision Making – Making Choices for Those Who Can’t.
If you are a caregiver for an elderly loved one, how would you answer these questions?
1. Does your loved one have the ability to make his or her own decisions?
2. Based on past conversations, do you know what your loved one would want in various medical situations?
3. How can you keep your elderly loved one included in ways that are safe for her/him to participate?
Wouldn't it be a relief to know that you are making decisions your loved one would want?
Join me and Viki as we discuss ways caregivers can be empowered to make appropriate, kind and ethical decisions.
We will look at ways families and healthcare professionals might be guided through the process of making decisions for those who are losing or have lost capacity to make decisions for themselves.
We will also discuss Viki's adaptable system for making difficult choices, including end-of-life decisions, while respecting the individual's values and beliefs. This is not a one-size-fits-all solution but can be adapted depending on the person's level of incapacity and the situation.
Who should listen? Any and everyone caring for elderly loved ones, especially those diagnosed with Alzheimer's (or other types of dementia), strokes, brain injuries, mental illness, developmental delays or other mental limitations will benefit from listening to this episode.
Listeners will learn the decision-making pathway and tools to help give voice to those who can't speak for themselves.
Listeners will also learn specific strategies, questions to use, and how these tools will work in real life situations.
Respect and compassion are the core values of this decision-making process.
Whether you a professional caregiver or a family caregiver, you will come away feeling more knowledgeable and confident about making decisions for those in your care.
As Viki would say: "Have a kind and respectful day."
Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon
Please join me Tuesday, June 15, 2010 @ Noon EST: www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon. Viki Kind will be my guest. Viki is a clinical bioethicist, medical educator, hospice volunteer and the author of: The Caregiver’s Path to Compassionate Decision Making – Making Choices for Those Who Can’t.
If you are a caregiver for an elderly loved one, how would you answer these questions?
1. Does your loved one have the ability to make his or her own decisions?
2. Based on past conversations, do you know what your loved one would want in various medical situations?
3. How can you keep your elderly loved one included in ways that are safe for her/him to participate?
Wouldn't it be a relief to know that you are making decisions your loved one would want?
Join me and Viki as we discuss ways caregivers can be empowered to make appropriate, kind and ethical decisions.
We will look at ways families and healthcare professionals might be guided through the process of making decisions for those who are losing or have lost capacity to make decisions for themselves.
We will also discuss Viki's adaptable system for making difficult choices, including end-of-life decisions, while respecting the individual's values and beliefs. This is not a one-size-fits-all solution but can be adapted depending on the person's level of incapacity and the situation.
Who should listen? Any and everyone caring for elderly loved ones, especially those diagnosed with Alzheimer's (or other types of dementia), strokes, brain injuries, mental illness, developmental delays or other mental limitations will benefit from listening to this episode.
Listeners will learn the decision-making pathway and tools to help give voice to those who can't speak for themselves.
Listeners will also learn specific strategies, questions to use, and how these tools will work in real life situations.
Respect and compassion are the core values of this decision-making process.
Whether you a professional caregiver or a family caregiver, you will come away feeling more knowledgeable and confident about making decisions for those in your care.
As Viki would say: "Have a kind and respectful day."
Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon
Fear of Death Among the Elderly--Part One
The worst of all fears is the fear of living.
(Theodore Roosevelt)
Many individuals are terribly afraid to let go of the known and move into a realm of the unknown.
Fears about death itself vary according to individual frameworks. However, common fears have to do with the afterlife.
Many report fearing the unknown and what may or may not await them
If that is an expressed fear of elderly loved ones, this might also be an indirect request to see family members they haven't seen for a long time.
When folks know their time is limited, they are sometimes willing to take emotioal risks they have avoided in the past.
You, as a caregiver, might ask if there's anyone they've been thinking about or anyone they'd like to see.
Some might ask to see or talk with a family member they haven't seen in a while or an old lover or friend from their school years.
Some report having "dream visits" from individuals they long to see or perhaps have unfinished business with.
Some fear talking about death will somehow speed the process. This, of course is not true.
Sincerely,
Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregivier Generation
Sunday, June 13, 2010
Caregiver's Path to Compassionate Decision Making
Please join me Tuesday, June 15, 2010 @ Noon EST: www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon . Viki Kind will be my special guest. Viki is a clinical bioethicist, medical educator, hospice volunteer and the author of The Caregiver’s Path to Compassionate Decision Making – Making Choice for Those Who Can’t.
Instead, reach out and begin talking about how each of you is coping. Allow the person to share his or her emotions, even the loud and scary emotions. Be still and listen with your full attention. Turn off the phone and the television.
Be present with your loved one’s suffering because as you listen, you help the person heal. Then it will be your turn to speak your truth. Your fears and concerns are not a burden to your family but something that everyone is thinking and too afraid to speak out loud.
If your loved one’s medical condition has begun to worsen, or the process of dying has begun, ask what your loved one would like to have happen. Include the individual in every way you can think of so he or she can retain some sense of control and power.
Imagine how hard it must be to know that your mind is going or to feel your body changing right before your eyes. Even though you can’t control what is happening, one of the greatest gifts you can give your loved one is to hear his or her needs and wishes. And then, each time you have to make a decision or to talk about life and medical choices, remember to start from your loved ones perspective.
I realize that watching your loved one suffer is difficult for you, the caregiver, but keep in mind how difficult it is for your loved one. Perhaps you can be a little more patient or a little more respectful.
Maybe before you lash out in frustration with the person you are caring for, you can stop, catch your breath and try to be more understanding, compassionate and kind. I know you are human and you can’t be nice all the time.
I know I have been frustrated and less than loving at times when taking care of my family members. But I also know we can strive to be better—not perfect, but better. It’s not easy, but we can choose to do a little better every day.
Have a kind and respectful day.
viki@kindethics.com "
I do hope you'll join us for this most enlightening episode.
Sincerely,
Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon
Here's a recent article Vicki wrote which I hope you will find as inspiring as I did.
"Sometimes as caregivers, we try to protect the person in our care and to stay strong for everyone else in the family. We pretend that nothing is wrong even in the midst of very difficult situations. This isolates us—and our loved ones even more.Instead, reach out and begin talking about how each of you is coping. Allow the person to share his or her emotions, even the loud and scary emotions. Be still and listen with your full attention. Turn off the phone and the television.
Be present with your loved one’s suffering because as you listen, you help the person heal. Then it will be your turn to speak your truth. Your fears and concerns are not a burden to your family but something that everyone is thinking and too afraid to speak out loud.
If your loved one’s medical condition has begun to worsen, or the process of dying has begun, ask what your loved one would like to have happen. Include the individual in every way you can think of so he or she can retain some sense of control and power.
Imagine how hard it must be to know that your mind is going or to feel your body changing right before your eyes. Even though you can’t control what is happening, one of the greatest gifts you can give your loved one is to hear his or her needs and wishes. And then, each time you have to make a decision or to talk about life and medical choices, remember to start from your loved ones perspective.
I realize that watching your loved one suffer is difficult for you, the caregiver, but keep in mind how difficult it is for your loved one. Perhaps you can be a little more patient or a little more respectful.
Maybe before you lash out in frustration with the person you are caring for, you can stop, catch your breath and try to be more understanding, compassionate and kind. I know you are human and you can’t be nice all the time.
I know I have been frustrated and less than loving at times when taking care of my family members. But I also know we can strive to be better—not perfect, but better. It’s not easy, but we can choose to do a little better every day.
Have a kind and respectful day.
viki@kindethics.com "
I do hope you'll join us for this most enlightening episode.
Sincerely,
Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Helping Elderly Loved Ones Reduce Internal Unrest.
Comedy is tragedy plus time.
(Carol Burnette)
Research suggests humor (watching funny movies, funny television programs, or re-runs of funny episodes) and laughing releases endorphins that reduce pain and boost the immune system as well as offer individuals a heightened sense of well-being.
Other practices that might be beneficial in reducing internal unrest include relaxation techniques, listening to relaxing/classical music, reading, meditating, chanting, praying, Shamanic treatments, herbal remedies, acupuncture, exercising, massages, and getting sunlight and fresh air.
Caregivers might also encourage elderly loved ones to so whatever they need to do in order to make amends or complete unfinished business in order to attain the peace they desire.
The Greek origin of the word "crisis" connotes opportunity and possibility. So it is with the final stage of life. Regardless of an individual's religious, spiritual, or philosophical framewwork, spiritual growth is possible for almost everyone, right up to the end of life.
Spiritual growth does not, however, necessarily diminish pain and suffering.
It has been suggested that unresolved issues and fear are the two most important factors in determining the level of resistance individuals will experience when facing death.
Sincerely,
Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
Friday, June 11, 2010
Helping Elderly Loved Ones Find Value and Meaning--Part Three
The average man (woman) does not know what to so with his/her life,
yet wants another one that will last forever.
(Anatole France)
When some people become unable to participate in physical activities, they focus their energy, time, and atention on spiritual matters and personal reflection.
Some who have "wandered from the fold" make a concerted effort to return to the teachings of their youth and renew covenants and religious practices and traditions.
Some request a picture or statue of Christ or other religious or cultural figures, or rosary beads, prayer shawl, or prayer books to use when praying.
Others may ask for scriptures or other religious books to read or listen to, or for small altars or shrines to be constructed.
Some may request particular objects or potions believed to have healing powers.
Yet others may request that caregivers and family members pray with and/or for them.
Some request their names to be placed on prayer rolls so others might pray for them.
Take time to explore personal desires of those you are charged with taking care of.
Sincerely,
Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Helping Elderly Loved Ones Find Value and Meaning--Part Two
Look at everything as though you were seeing it either for the first or last time.
Then your tine on earth will be filled with glory.
(Betty Smith, A Tree Grown in Brooklyn)
Thinking about, as well as creating a written list, of the things and people we are thankful for and the blessings and positive events in our lives releases neuro-chemicals, which help fight depression, boost the immune system, and enable us to feel nbetter in general.
It may be helpful, for you as well as your elderly loved ones, to write down something you and they are thankful for that begins with each letter of the alphabet every day and try not to use the same words two days in a row.
Reframing one's situation often enables individuals to cope by finding meaning and value in their present situation.
This time in life might provide a good opportunity to tell their life's story. They might want to write their memoirs or record their story on DVD so their heirs might have the opportunity to enjoy it.
Sincerely,
Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
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