Talking...From Chit-Chat to Headlines

Ever wish you could communicate more effectively and efficiently?

Ever wish you knew how to start a conversation with a stranger?

Ever wish you could learn to "think" before you speak, or have magical words roll off the tip of your tongue?

Ever wish you could motivate and encourage others with words?

Ever wish you knew certain words which should be avoided?

Ever wish you could speak directly to the heart of a matter and leave others feeling "understood"?

Would you like to be a more effective listener?

Do you ever feel you are at a loss for words just when you need to speak up?

Would you like to know how to handle "complainers and venters"?

My special guest on Tuesday, August 17 @ Noon ET (9:00AM PT) (www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon) will be Lorri Allen, author, speaker, and radio host.

Lorri will discuss how to effectively communicate from every angle, and teach listeners steps to effective communications.

Lorri is the founder of "Good News!" a company that works with people who want to craft a clear media message and with organizations that want to communicate quickly, in a crisis.

She also coaches newsmakers who want to improve their ability to answer questions or who need confidence in front of reporters.

In addition, Lorri provides 'insurance" against looking silly or stupid on television.

Her clients have gone on to appear on PBS, the Home Shopping Network, and Good Morning America, as well as local news programs.

If you want to improve the quality of your communications, you won't want to miss this episode.
I truly hope you will join me August 17 @ Noon ET (9:00PT) www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru
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Are You in Alignment?

Did you know that Monday morning at 6:07AM, August 9th. the date will be in perfect alignment--perfect order?

At 6:07AM it will be 6,7,8,9,10!!

Hour = Six,
Minutes = Seven
Month = Eight
Day = Nine
Year = Ten

Are you in alignment? Or, are you scattered about?

On Tuesday, August 24th, Eileen Roth, author of Organizing For Dummies, will be my special guest on The Baby Boomers' Sandwich Show: www.BlogTalkRadio.com/sandra-haymon. We will discuss the importance of being organized and having order in our lives.

Then, on 9/28/10, Kathleen Ronald will join me to dicuss the topic of "clutter." The title of that episode will be: "What's Your Clutter Costing You?" (I'll be writing more about Kathleen in upcoming blog posts.)

So, if you'd like to learn how to become more organized, bring greater order to your life, de-clutter and make room for more abundance, you won't want to miss these episodes.

Actually, I have GREAT guests every Tuesday at Noon ET (9:00AM PT).

Hope you will join me every week!

If you're not available during the time the show airs--not to worry--you may listen to all episodes 24/7 at www.BlogTalkRadio.com/sandra-haymon.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru

31 Days to Millionaire Marketing Miracle$

WOW!!!

I have just finished reading Tracy Repchuk's book: 31 Days to Millionaire Marketing Miracle$ (2009, InnerSurfPublishing). What an amazing piece of work!!!

If you've ever thought about getting into Internet Marketing, or just wondered how it all works--this book is for you!

After drinking deeply from the expansive and deep well of Internet Marketing Information, Tracy assimilated, synthesized and distilled the whole of it.

She then, regurgitated a complete manual that guides readers thru an otherwise complicated maze in a simple, easy to understand, interesting, and fun way.

And, if that were not awesome enough---she took this book from start to bestseller in 58 days!!

Having written and published two books, I am familiar with the amount of energy that goes into researching and writing. And, I cannot fathom the overwhelming task that Tracy undertook in this project.

I know Tracy personally and can attest that she is a genuine and sincere individual.

I highly recommend this book and anything Tracy Repchuk is associated with.

But, don't take my word for it. Go to Amazon.com, order this book today, and see for yourself if I have not actually understated the value of Tracy's accomplishment.

Here are several ways you might find out more information about Tracy and the awesome programs she offers:
http://www.marketingmakeovermaestro.com/
http://www.internetmarketingnewbieclub.com/
http://www.jvcoachingclub.com/
http://www.entrepreneurinoverdrive.com/

http://www.InternetMarketingNewbieClub.com

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

Consequences of Rushing Thru Life

This was just too good to not pass along!

THE SITUATION

In Washington, DC, at a Metro Station, on a cold January morning in 2007, a man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes.

During that time, approximately 2,000 people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.

After about 3 minutes, a middle-aged man noticed that there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds, and then he hurried on to meet his schedule.

About 4 minutes later, the violinist received his first dollar. A woman threw money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.

At 6 minutes, a young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.

At 10 minutes, a 3-year old boy stopped, but his mother tugged him along hurriedly.

The child stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head the whole time.

This action was repeated by several other children, but every parent - without exception - forced their children to move on quickly.

At 45 minutes, the musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while.

About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32.

After 1 hour, he finished playing and silence took over.

No one noticed and no one applauded.

There was no recognition at all.

No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world.

He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars.

Two days before, Joshua Bell sold-out a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100 each to sit and listen to him play the same music.

This is a true story. Joshua Bell , playing incognito in the D.C. Metro Station, was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people's priorities.

This experiment raised several questions:

*In a common-place environment, at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty?

*If so, do we stop to appreciate it?

*Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context?

One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be this:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ever made . . .

How many other things are we missing? And, what are the consequences of rushing thru life?

Sincerely,

Fear of Death Among the Elderly--Part Two

I believe that the difference between Heaven and Hell is not so much the climate as the company. Living in a world populated by people like themselves would, for many be Heaven. And for others, it would indeed be Hell.

(Richard Paul Evans)

It is common for elderly folks to ask others what they believe about death. Often these types of questions are veiled attempts to clarify their own beliefs.

A good way to help elderly loved ones gain clarification is to turn the question back to them or ask these or other self-discovery questions.

For example, you might ask these or similar questions: "What have you been taught about an afterlife?" "What do you hope happens after death?" "What have you envisioned it might be like after death?" "Is there some thought about death that brings you comfort?" "Where do you turn for strength?"

Views about death itself and spiritual life after death depend largely on cultural and/or religious teachings, as well as individual frameworks.

Sincerely,

Sandra -- Caregiver uru for the Caregiver Genertion

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Fear of Death Among the Elderly--Part One

The worst of all fears is the fear of living.

(Theodore Roosevelt)

Many individuals are terribly afraid to let go of the known and move into a realm of the unknown.

Fears about death itself vary according to individual frameworks. However, common fears have to do with the afterlife.

Many report fearing the unknown and what may or may not await them

If that is an expressed fear of elderly loved ones, this might also be an indirect request to see family members they haven't seen for a long time.

When folks know their time is limited, they are sometimes willing to take emotioal risks they have avoided in the past.

You, as a caregiver, might ask if there's anyone they've been thinking about or anyone they'd like to see.

Some might ask to see or talk with a family member they haven't seen in a while or an old lover or friend from their school years.

Some report having "dream visits" from individuals they long to see or perhaps have unfinished business with.

Some fear talking about death will somehow speed the process. This, of course is not true.

Sincerely,

Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregivier Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Caregiver's Path to Compassionate Decision Making

Please join me Tuesday, June 15, 2010 @ Noon EST: www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon . Viki Kind will be my special guest. Viki is a clinical bioethicist, medical educator, hospice volunteer and the author of The Caregiver’s Path to Compassionate Decision Making – Making Choice for Those Who Can’t.

Here's a recent article Vicki wrote which I hope you will find as inspiring as I did.

"Sometimes as caregivers, we try to protect the person in our care and to stay strong for everyone else in the family. We pretend that nothing is wrong even in the midst of very difficult situations. This isolates us—and our loved ones even more.

Instead, reach out and begin talking about how each of you is coping. Allow the person to share his or her emotions, even the loud and scary emotions. Be still and listen with your full attention. Turn off the phone and the television.

Be present with your loved one’s suffering because as you listen, you help the person heal. Then it will be your turn to speak your truth. Your fears and concerns are not a burden to your family but something that everyone is thinking and too afraid to speak out loud.

If your loved one’s medical condition has begun to worsen, or the process of dying has begun, ask what your loved one would like to have happen. Include the individual in every way you can think of so he or she can retain some sense of control and power.

Imagine how hard it must be to know that your mind is going or to feel your body changing right before your eyes. Even though you can’t control what is happening, one of the greatest gifts you can give your loved one is to hear his or her needs and wishes. And then, each time you have to make a decision or to talk about life and medical choices, remember to start from your loved ones perspective.

I realize that watching your loved one suffer is difficult for you, the caregiver, but keep in mind how difficult it is for your loved one. Perhaps you can be a little more patient or a little more respectful.

Maybe before you lash out in frustration with the person you are caring for, you can stop, catch your breath and try to be more understanding, compassionate and kind. I know you are human and you can’t be nice all the time.

I know I have been frustrated and less than loving at times when taking care of my family members. But I also know we can strive to be better—not perfect, but better. It’s not easy, but we can choose to do a little better every day.

Have a kind and respectful day.
viki@kindethics.com "

I do hope you'll join us for this most enlightening episode.
Sincerely,
Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Helping Elderly Loved Ones Reduce Internal Unrest.

Comedy is tragedy plus time.

(Carol Burnette)

Research suggests humor (watching funny movies, funny television programs, or re-runs of funny episodes) and laughing releases endorphins that reduce pain and boost the immune system as well as offer individuals a heightened sense of well-being.

Other practices that might be beneficial in reducing internal unrest include relaxation techniques, listening to relaxing/classical music, reading, meditating, chanting, praying, Shamanic treatments, herbal remedies, acupuncture, exercising, massages, and getting sunlight and fresh air.

Caregivers might also encourage elderly loved ones to so whatever they need to do in order to make amends or complete unfinished business in order to attain the peace they desire.

The Greek origin of the word "crisis" connotes opportunity and possibility. So it is with the final stage of life. Regardless of an individual's religious, spiritual, or philosophical framewwork, spiritual growth is possible for almost everyone, right up to the end of life.

Spiritual growth does not, however, necessarily diminish pain and suffering.

It has been suggested that unresolved issues and fear are the two most important factors in determining the level of resistance individuals will experience when facing death.

Sincerely,

Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

This too shall pass--dementia related agitation and rage.

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye. Antoine DeSaint-Exupery

It is not uncommon for individuals suffering rom dementia to become agitated and often fly into fits of rage without warning. Remember, this too shall pass.

There are a number of medications which may help keep agitation and rage to a minimum, and these are certainly indicated for some individuals. However, there are many things you, as a caregiver, might do to help your loved ones remain calm.

First, ensure that you remain calm and do not take anything your elderly loved ones say as a personal attack on you. Their agitation and/or rage is not about you!

Second, lower your voice when attempting to soothe agitated individuals, and ensure that you are coming from a place of love. The feeling you communicate is far more important than the words you speak.

Third, always be reassuring. Whatever their fears are--reassure them that everything will be alright and that you will stay with them.

Fourth, ensure that they are not cold. A nice blanket aroung their shoulders or a lap guilt may help them to feel more secure. Also, offer them their favorite beverage or food.

Fifth, if possible, have them take several deep breaths with you. Oxygen is more calming than Valium!

You might also try distracting them very much like you would a child that is tantruming. Have photo albums nearby and try to get them to look at old photos with you and talk about times past.

If your loved one experiences sundowning, be prepared and get a head start each afternoon before their agitation gets out of control.

A few drops of lavender oil on their collar or a tiny drop between their upper lip and nose may help to keep them calm. Also, soft, soothing music may be helpful for them and for you!

Sincerely,

Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

The Importance of Rituals for the Elderly and Their Caregivers

We grow neither better nor worse as we grow old, but more like ourselves.

May Lamberton Becker

For many elderly individuals rituals offer comfort and a sense of being in control at a time when there are few things within the realm of their control. Certain rituals, like saying prayers each morning and/or evening, may help some to feel a sense of normalcy.

Even rituals such as getting a bath and eating meals at the same times each day may offer a sense of security and predictability. For some, religious or spiritual practices and traditions are comforting.

It may be helpful to follow rituals and set paterns in order to establish and maintain a sense of security for your elderly loved ones.

Wishing you all a safe and wonderful Memorial Day weekend. Remember those who've served ans made sacrifices for our freedom. Many of whom are the elderly individuals we are given the opportunity to now serve.

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

www.BabyBoomersSandwich.com www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Kind Ethics for Caregivers

Viki Kind is a clinical bioethicist, medical educator, hospice volunteer and the author of The Caregiver’s Path to Compassionate Decision Making – Making Choice for Those Who Can’t.


Here's a recent article I received fro her.

Kind Ethics for Caregivers

"Sometimes as caregivers, we try to protect the person in our care and to stay strong for everyone else in the family. We pretend that nothing is wrong even in the midst of very difficult situations. This isolates us—and our loved ones even more.

Instead, reach out and begin talking about how each of you is coping. Allow the person to share his or her emotions, even the loud and scary emotions.

Be still and listen with your full attention.

Turn off the phone and the television. Be present with your loved one’s suffering because as you listen, you help the person heal.

Then it will be your turn to speak your truth. Your fears and concerns are not a burden to your family but something that everyone is thinking and too afraid to speak out loud.

If your loved one’s medical condition has begun to worsen, or the process of dying has begun, ask what your loved one would like to have happen.

Include the individual in every way you can think of so he or she can retain some sense of control and power.

Imagine how hard it must be to know that your mind is going or to feel your body changing right before your eyes.

Even though you can’t control what is happening, one of the greatest gifts you can give your loved one is to hear his or her needs and wishes.

And then, each time you have to make a decision or to talk about life and medical choices, remember to start from your loved ones perspective.

I realize that watching your loved one suffer is difficult for you, the caregiver, but keep in mind how difficult it is for your loved one.

Perhaps you can be a little more patient or a little more respectful. Maybe before you lash out in frustration with the person you are caring for, you can stop, catch your breath and try to be more understanding, compassionate and kind.

I know you are human and you can’t be nice all the time. I know I have been frustrated and less than loving at times when taking care of my family members.

But, I also know we can strive to be better—not perfect, but better. It’s not easy, but we can choose to do a little better every day." Have a kind and respectful day. viki@kindethics.com

I hope you benefitted from this as much as I did.
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon